Resident Education and Development (RED) is responsiible for
- Have realistic expectations. It isn’t necessary to be best friends in order to have a comfortable roommate relationship.
- Approach sharing a room and building a roommate relationship with an open mind.
- When something bothers you, speak up to your roommate(s) about it calmly and privately. Don’t let annoyances accumulate.
- "Check in" occasionally to see how the relationship is going from your roommate’s perspective. Ask what you can to do be a better roommate.
- Don’t assume that you and your roommate were raised with similar expectations or habits. Be prepared for residence hall life to be a little different.
- Listen openly and carefully to your roommate.
- Be willing to compromise.
- Demonstrate courtesy toward your roommates (and their guests) consistently.
- If you need help or support in managing a disagreement, bring in your RA instead of other parties. Encourage neighbors, friends and family members to stay out of a conflict that does not involve them so that the situation doesn't escalate unnecessarily.
- Acknowledge that conflict management is an on-going process. Be patient. Like any other relationship, roommate relationships require continuing care, attention, and effort on everyone’s part.